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How To Be More Confident In 10 Easy Steps
Frederick Handel once said, “the self-assured mind is a habit of the healthy mind.”
If you’re feeling like your confidence is in a slump, I’m here to tell you that it’s not only normal but also completely solvable. You can regain that swaggering self-assurance and go on to conquer your world with bold new confidence. Whether you’re feeling out of balance and looking for some help to bring yourself back into a healthy headspace, or simply looking for some inspiration, the below 13 ways will give you the answers you’re looking for.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
When you compare yourself to others, you’re not only wasting time and energy but also hurting yourself. It’s not healthy or fun, and it doesn’t help anyone. Comparing yourself to other people is a form of self-defeating behavior that can prevent you from growing as a person.
I like this quote:” Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself. – Coco Chanel
You may think that comparing yourself with others will make you feel better about yourself, but the truth is that it usually has the opposite effect: it makes us feel inferior and inadequate because we’re comparing ourselves with someone who appears more successful than we are in some way (career success, wealth, physical appearance). Instead of being able to enjoy our own lives fully and appreciate what we have achieved so far in life (and there are plenty), we are constantly thinking about how other people have achieved more than us or look better than us physically etcetera…
Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.”
– Shannon L. Alder
2. Do something you’re passionate about.
If you don’t have a passion, that’s fine! But if you do, find ways to incorporate it into your life as much as possible. If it’s singing or dancing or playing the piano–or if it’s something else entirely–make sure that whatever gets your heart racing is also integrated into your daily routine. The more time spent doing what makes us happy and fulfilled will improve our overall quality of life and help us feel confident in our abilities (even when we’re not performing).
3. Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses.
Focusing on your strengths can be a great way to get more confident. When you’re focusing on what you’re good at and how it makes you feel, it’s easier to see the value in what you are doing. You’ll also begin to realize that there are many different ways of being successful–it’s not just about being the best or most popular person in the room!
When we focus on our weaknesses, our brains automatically start looking for ways we could improve those areas of ourselves. But when we focus instead on what we already know comes naturally to us (our strengths), our brains will actually help us become better at them over time without even realizing it!
4. Practice self-care.
Self-care is important. It can be as simple as taking a bath or going for a walk, or it could be more complex, like getting a massage and going on vacation. Self-care is beneficial because it helps you feel better in your body and mind, which in turn will make you more productive at work or at home!
If you’re feeling stressed out about something, do something nice for yourself (like getting some ice cream) instead of worrying about the situation all night long. Or if someone has been treating you poorly lately–whether it’s your boss or even just someone from school–take time each day to remind yourself that this person doesn’t have power over who YOU are as an individual; they only have power over how THEY treat others’ behaviors towards THEM (and sometimes even less than that).
“Self-care is one of the active ways that I love myself. When you can and as you can, in ways that feel loving, make time and space for yourself.”
— Tracee Ellis Ross
5. Work on building your character, instead of trying to change who you are naturally.
You can’t change who you are naturally. Instead of trying to do so, focus on building your character and working on the things that you do have control over. What is character? Character is the sum total of your life experiences and how they shape who you are today. It’s also important to note that this definition doesn’t just apply to individuals–it applies equally well at an organizational level as well!
Character is built through making good choices in tough situations; it comes from taking responsibility when something goes wrong (even if no one knows), learning from mistakes instead of blaming others or circumstances beyond our control, showing compassion towards others even when they don’t deserve it (because everyone deserves compassion), being honest with oneself while also striving towards self-improvement…and so much more!
6. Develop confidence in yourself before trying to be confident in others.
If you want to feel more confident in yourself, it’s important to develop confidence before trying to be confident in others. Don’t worry about what other people think of you; don’t try to be someone else and don’t worry about impressing them. Be yourself! If someone doesn’t like the real version of you–well, that’s their problem. You have a lot of stuff going on inside your head (what do people think about me? Did I say something stupid? Should I have said this instead?). Focus on being confident in who and what YOU know rather than worrying about what others might think or say about it later on down the road when they’re thinking back at all those conversations they had with friends where they talked trash about certain individuals without even knowing how much damage those words could cause over time if left unchecked.”
7. Find or create a community that accepts you for who you are right now.
One of the most important things you can do to feel more confident is to find or create a community that accepts you for who you are right now.
This isn’t just about finding people with similar interests and hobbies, though that’s important too. A supportive community should be diverse and inclusive; it should include people who are different from each other in terms of race, gender identity/expression, sexual orientation, body size/shape, ability level (physical or mental), age, and socioeconomic status–and these differences shouldn’t be seen as barriers to friendship!
You also want to make sure the members of this community are trustworthy: if anyone makes an offensive comment or tries to exclude someone else from the group because of their differences (or even just because they disagree with something), speak up! Your voice matters here; don’t let others silence those around them by making oppressive statements without being challenged on them directly first
8. Take care of your body by eating well and getting enough sleep, exercise, and water.
- Sleep: Get enough sleep.
- Exercise: Do some form of exercise at least three times per week. You don’t have to be an athlete, just do what you like and feel good about it!
- Water: Drink at least eight glasses of water every day (more if it is hot outside).
- Take care of your appearance, it matters.
Men judge generally more by the eye than by the hand, for everyone can see and few can feel. Everyone sees what you appear to be, few really know what you are . Niccolo Machiavelli
9. Make it a point to be kinder to yourself than anyone else ever has been or will be – even if it doesn’t feel like self-love at first.
The first step to increasing your self-confidence is to be kinder to yourself than anyone else ever has been or will be.
This may sound like a tall order, but trust me: it’s not as hard as you think! The first time I tried this exercise was when I was in college and struggling with depression. At the time, my ability to function on a daily basis seemed like an insurmountable obstacle. But then one day I decided that instead of beating myself up for feeling weak and helpless all the time (which only made things worse), I would treat myself like a friend would treat another person who was struggling with something similar – which meant being gentle and supportive instead of harsh and judgmental. This simple shift made all the difference in how comfortable I felt being around myself; soon enough I began feeling better about myself overall too!
The next time someone tells themselves something negative about themselves like “I’m not smart enough” or “I’m ugly.” Remind them gently but firmly: You are loved exactly as much as any other person here today–no more no less–and deserve respect just like everyone else does too.”
10. Go after things that scare you so that you can grow as a person and come out stronger on the other side – because remember, fear is an illusion anyway! It’s all in our heads! We’re bigger than what we think! And so on… 🙂 Just kidding… but really… do things that scare you! It builds confidence!!! (the more you do it, the easier it gets).
Gone are the days where you have to be afraid of doing something because of what other people will think. If it’s something that you want to do, then go for it!
Fear is an illusion; it’s all in our heads! We’re bigger than what we think and can overcome fear by taking action. The more we do things that scare us, the easier it gets!
So what are some examples? Try public speaking or singing karaoke at a bar (make sure there aren’t any drunk people around). Or take up a new hobby like learning how to play guitar or paint portraits of famous people (just don’t try selling them online). Maybe even start writing
One of the most important elements in gaining more confidence is changing your attitude and outlook on life. While it may seem like that might take a lot of time to do, it’s not as difficult as you think. You can start taking those tiny steps today, and soon you will see a big difference! Soon, you’ll start feeling better about yourself, being more open to trying new things, and building self-confidence in all areas of your life.
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